The key to calmness is accepting what you cannot change, changing what you can, and possessing the knowledge to know the difference. This ideology is a good model that covers a lot of ground, but how do you tell the difference between what you can and cannot change? Here are some things you do have control over.
Your actions. No one can “make” you do anything. If you’re unhappy with your behavior at work, change it and chart a new course for yourself.
Your words. Spoken or written, the words you choose impact your life and the lives of others. Choose your words carefully with workmates, colleagues, bosses, and clients, and quickly acknowledge any harm your words cause.
Your beliefs. If you believe that others or your organization should take care of your needs, then you will be frustrated when they don’t. If you believe things must be a certain way, you’ll surely face disappointment.
Your values. What’s important to you is your choice. No one else can tell you what to value. Spend some time identifying your values and then aligning your work and life with them.
Your work. No one else can contribute to the world in the same way as you. Keep learning, keep improving and do whatever it takes to be the very best at whatever profession you choose in your life.
Your friends. Those you associate with say a lot about what you think about yourself. Always choose friends who support you instead of those who bring you down.
Your time. Though it may not always feel this way, you do choose every day how to use its 24 hours. Fill those hours with more of what you truly want, and feel your happiness increase.
Your health. While you can’t control your genetics, you can choose to exercise, sleep enough, eat the right foods, and get routine medical check-ups.